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girls are hot. but from what i can tell, lesbians end up in far more emotional pain. you think?

I think it really depends on the entire relationship.  From my experience (..there isn’t a lot of it,) I’ve noticed that lesbian relationships bring the girls closer together because they have a bond that straight couples don’t have.  They know what it feels like to be a girl, they aren’t embarrassed by things that would usually embarrass a girl in a straight relationship, etc.  I think that’s why when a lesbian relationship ends, the girls feel like a big part has been taken from them because the other was someone they could always relate to.  They’re usually much more than girlfriends; they’re best friends because they can almost always relate to each other.